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Top 10 Tips for “Coming Out” Gay

tumblr_n7xkvb6oMT1sm3xl0o6_1280Top 10 Tips for “Coming Out” Gay

  1. The person you come out to first should be someone you trust. Ideally an adult who can keep the news in confidence. Good examples are Parents, Teachers, Doctors, Relatives, Counsellors, Team Coaches, Youth Workers and Neighbours.
  2. You may tell them in person, by phone or by writing it on a piece of paper and handing it to them. You will benefit from getting some instant feedback and re-assurance so try to avoid texting it or sending it in an email or through social media.
  3. If you don’t have a trusted adult in your life that you can tell – then look up the nearest LGBT Helpline in your area and speak to them. They are trained to listen without judgement and will be able to advise you and let you know what other supports are available in your area.
  4. If you decide to come out fully and tell everyone that you are gay – try to avoid coming out to your friends and family through social media. People will prefer to hear the news first hand from you personally as support you better that way.
  5. Try to tell you closest friends in person before the rest of the world knows. They deserve to hear it from you before they hear it from others. This allows them to show that they are OK with it and also allow you to answer any questions or deal with any concerns that they might is love
  6. When you tell your parents – give them time to take in the news. They may be in shock, confused, annoyed, angry, upset, delighted, anxious or indifferent. Either way, they all need time to take it in and will probably have a lot of things to discuss. Just take it slowly and if you don’t know the answers to their questions, just  tell them so in a calm manner. You are probably fairly new to all this also and won’t have all the answers, even for your own questions.
  7. In relation to School – If you have come out to your family and friends, it is easier to be in control of the news by coming out in school before someone outs you (even by accident). Once you declare that you are gay – this disarms the bullies as they see you are proud and in charge of your life and they have nothing to hold over you.
  8. When you come out, you don’t necessarily need to change anything about yourself just because you have come out as being gay. You can dress, walk, talk, act and behave just as you did before. You are the same you and you don’t have to fit into any stereotypes. That said – don’t be afraid to show some of your creative flamboyance if that’s your thing.
  9. If anybody bullies you for coming out gay, report them to the school authorities or the police. Bullying is a really serious matter and you deserve to live a peaceful happy life, free of bullies.
  10. If there is a youth group for LGBT people in your area, it is really useful to join up as you get to meet other young LGBT people who are also going through similar experiences as you are and this can be a really supportive environment. If there is none in your locality you should join recognised LGBT online forums which offer similar support.

513OWSWB-gL__AA160_ “The Complete Guide to Gay Life for New Explorers (The Definitive Coming Out book)” – by Michael Ryan